It is an exhausting state of mind that's for sure as many know. I can’t cope with my health issues anymore and nobody can figure out what’s wrong. Getting support – how much does it cost? Food and drinks stay in the kitchen. I use to be good at things, now I can't even organise myself to clean the house, I stuff up everything I try, I get nervous, clumsy, panicky, angry over the tiniest things! What has been tried before 4. Older child with issues causes conflict - can't cope anymore My ex husband and I adopted her when she was six months old. Firstly... sending hugs!! I know I did. @genie - Surestart, not available nationwide but worth a try OP. It’s interesting that they behave for their dad, but not you. There's no discussion, no negotiation, and it's used for all scenarios from whinging, back chat, through to fighting with her brother, or yesterday, throwing all her toys down the stairs then getting her 2yo brother to slide down them on a dressing gown Hitting is an immediate "3". Try and do stuff with only 1 child -put the other into playgroup/leave with DH etc)-I found they were far less likely to run away on their own (far less brave!). We have! Best of luck. I feel like I’ve hit my breaking point. i attempted a social outing today, unfortunately came head on with my boyfriends brothers girlfriends, who individually I get along great with, but when they are together one gets very possessive of the other and I'm clearly reminded 3 is a crowd but that's more about her insecurities so proud to say I actually didn't have a meltdown over that :)Â, I will try to take the pressure off myself somewhat, re establish some routine, and get a handle on things. And once it's done, it's done, we don't talk about it again. She ate and drank whatever she wanted, didn't lose weight and missed doctors appointments. But you have to follow through and be prepared for a lot of whingeing till they get used to the new order.And I get that at 20 weeks you are probably exhausted, but it sounds as though they need wearing out - is there a small children's play park near you where they can't escape and they can wear themselves out safely? Secondly...I am in no way an expert...i just want to try and offer some advice/support.I am currently pregnant, so I know how exhausting it can be trying to get through pregnancy with also managing another child/children. I also hide away from socialising with anyone other than my mother as I can't handle the slightest criticism. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. I can't cope with my life anymore, I want it all to go away. I will keep this is point form Whispa...These work for some and maybe not for others... * Your mind is not nasty....its tired, the dreadful feelings you have are the sign of a tired and 'racing' mind, * This is the same as a physical injury...you cant 'snap out' having the flu...broken leg...infection...toothache, * Anxiety/Depression do release chemicals in the brain...physiological issue...the feelings are the end result. I can't satisfy my needs while existing in this "world" he's created. I'm at my wits end with this stupid tinnitus in both ears. sodrained Fri 09-Aug-19 14:42:34. If they throw toys, take them away. I do hope there might be something here you can use, I hope you can let us know how you are going Whispa. Put things away or try and get rid of anything you don’t need. Types of things they do, in the fridge every second, ripping wallpaper off walls, being rude, breaking stuff, tipping all shower stuff away or filling sink with tissue and blocking the sink up, trashing there bedroom and won't help to put it back, hurt each other then they are best friends again, if I put one in time out the other will go over and set them off I just don't know what to do their dad works full time so it's just me. It’s like a whirlwind has ripped through the place every evening and it’s tiresome! Be kind to yourself. Try and tidy toys out of reach, then take one thing at a time out to play with (duplo/play food etc). I’ve been in bed most of sunday and most of today with an ongoing migraine which I know has been because of the stress of arguing. Please select 'ok' to extend your session and prevent losing any content you are working on from being lost. Last night my brother had a go at me for shouting at her & something inside me just snapped. I've taken care of her everyday for well over 2 years now & in that time I've also cared for my dad for 9 months with lung cancer, at home, as that was his wish & lost him in August. All my friends are having babies or already have children. Apparently it worked anyhow. I’m 24 years old and a female. However, please make sure you do it in a way that's best for him. I never needed to shout, either. We also have a cat who he looks for in the house at least 3 times an hour and if he can’t find him it sends him into a blind panic - … Also divide and conquer-have one in trolley at supermarket, one in pushchair (take turns if nec). To what extent can you meet these needs 3. Be 'Kind' to yourself, you mind is still strong...just tired...like over revving an engine...pull back on the reigns.. Great start to healing by the way in having the courage to post. I am constantly nervous, heart racing, mood swings! However I came out of that with my son, and my life is now what you would call as close to perfect as could be. I just feel like running away. Craft, paper to rip and stick through times when yiu need to tell them off for inside damage.Run them in park for hours every day. Join the online community Community rules Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak, Hi, I'm wondering if anyone has any advice or coping methods on this? But no, it's because we love our friends but don't care about my parents. I’d spend much less time on cleaning, and more on activities to occupy the troops, improving their behaviour. Get DH to help in getting everything secure with locks -you can just put catches/ hooks at the top of doors, so they ca nt get in the kitchen( or whatever room you're not in).Then sign up for a parenting course because you have to crack this before the baby arrives. Sounds like you need to practice being strict- for example if they try to walk around with food, take it away. Now I am going into year 11 and I have no stress until now. Take them out for physical play every day if possible. My children (now adults) were recently fondly reminiscing about the time I stopped the car and told them to get out and walk home if they couldn't behave in the back together. I can't cope no more, I can't except it and never will.i wanna be like everyone else I find myself looking at people and just thiking bet she has peace and quiet. You need to work on your confidence - it’s like officer training, you need to practice being in charge. This has been my entire life." I use to be good at things, now I can't even organise myself to clean the house, I stuff up everything I try, I get nervous, clumsy, panicky, angry over the tiniest things! I cannot cope with my life. I’m anemic so I just want to sleep all the time, but I can’t take my iron pills as I know they will upset my tummy further. It might be totally different for you! Do either of them normally go to nursery or pre-school? I honestly don’t think I can cope anymore I’m so unhappy I feel ill everyday with upset stomach and or nausea. God bless. Things need to go back to basics with expectations and house rules. I can’t stop being depressed. He has brought this upon himself. Q. Erin, I can’t cope with my husband’s demands. Is there a DP in this to support you?I think you need to reach out ASAP to a health visitor, explain the situation, and ask them for help. My partner lives miles away from me and is only here 2 days a week, hes the father of my youngest and unborn child. I honestly cannot imagine looking after them while pregnant. They should not be able to access anything messy/dangerous. Your child’s needs 2. It would be a respite for you and would do your children good to have to fit in with behavioural norms (it could also highlight any behavioural disorder). It's starting to upset my very caring boyfriend as he thinks I'm avoiding him. via YouTube Capture. I do have a GP I find very good to talk to, unfortunately so does everyone else haha, so the wait to get in to him is rather long, and by the time my appointment rolls around I have got embarrassed and talk myself out of it. I just can’t cope anymore. I can't be sorry for her. 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I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, especially social anxiety, years ago but have always prided myself on a strong mind that could snap myself out of it, but now, it's making my life hell! Can't cope with my ADD/ODD child. but most painful, I've lost my ability with my horses. In our house it seems their favourite game is emptying all of the toys and mixing them up together I to some mountain of toy hell. It's the life she chose. However!!! Great advice @Babdoc - I need to take a leaf out of your book! So no potty anywhere near the sofa - keep it in the bathroom. If they get down from table at meals just take food away-stay very calm and as matter of fact as possible- ‘we eat at the table in this house ..’ I find using ‘we’ helps rather than ‘you’.Routine is key. Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. And I was able to stay close to my friends and hang out with them regularly. I think most people must go through a stage of thinking "I can't cope anymore". Please forgive the need to be anon. Sooner or later, most of us who try to cope with depression feel so overwhelmed that all we can hold onto is: I just can’t do it. I can’t go on anymore (please be aware of trigger warning) I’m so depressed. Forum Member. Their reception teacher will thank you for sorting it before they hit the classroom- she’ll have enough feral kids to deal with. Hi lost child, I do feel for you. Can't cope with my children anymore (40 Posts) Add message | Report. (They must have been pre/primary age - I don't remember it at all but it has clearly burned into their memories!!) I will never abandon taking care of him-as I've told him. and even then, be sure he actually HAS. Once they’re civilised, you can enjoy outings where they won’t disgrace you and cause havoc! If she get a 3, she gets told "that's a 3" and goes to her room for a "calm down". I absolutely hate myself, and every inch of my looks and body, and try on about 15 outfits to go anywhere. I cant do this anymore, i have no motivation, depleated mentaly, always tired, my mind doesnt stop racing, I am diagnosed as depressed, i take 300mg of my medication a day, and somedays i go to 450mg, which numbs me down, but little less anxiuos, and feel clamer, I am stressed, it is impacting by work, no motovation. The awaken time I distract myself with internet. My 10 year old is my daughter who is a mother hen. We don't call it a punishment, so in her room she can play or whatever she wants to do to calm down. To think that high levels of children being sent to school are the beginnings of lockdown resistance from the working age population. Kids like boundaries, and the reassurance of an adult in control. I'm very honest with my feelings yet he refuses or is incapable of seeing me. I also agree with the advice to get out of the house!!!! I find it really helpful to have a tight routine..doing similar tasks each day...what I mean is... breakfast...Having a wash...then straight to get dressed... Then whatever we are doing that day... Our mornings always start the same... Could you ask your husband to have a day off...so you can have some me time...it's important you deal with this together and you look after your own well being! I feel so selfish and silly when I think about the way I … Remember all parents have things they struggle with, I found the toddler stage easy-teens not so much! I don't know if I'm a bit too hard on her sometimes because of my frustration and emotions that I can't seem to get control of. And so much more, all due to my mind will not shut up! Please help us improve the lives of people affected by anxiety, depression and suicide, Before you can post or reply in these forums, please complete your profile. Sometimes, I feel the … I’m a firm believer that the devil has work for idle hands to do. 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